I basically agree with you - especially about Austen - even though I'm for sale when it comes to love at first sight or the whole destined to be-thing. Not because I'm a fan of the deus ex machina solution, but because obsession is interesting. Still, it does, as you say, have to be shown, not said. It's not fun if you're just told that Hero and Heroine loves each other after seeing each other once at the market and therefore wars are fought and empires crushed just so they can meet again and maybe have a burger at McD. I think that's why I hated Harry/Ginny for such a long time. There was nothing but an older boy and the besotted girl. Now that Ginny has begun to become a real person who can interact with Harry as such, I'm willing to give it a shot.
What I miss more is equality. Not necessarily power-wise, but personality-wise. How often have we not read books where the heroine might as well have been exchanged for an animal or a treasure? She's just the reward, not matter how many sassy remarks she can throw off.
To me, an interesting romance is between two persons who can give as good as they get, one way or another. Snape/Harry can easily end like this: "Let me teach you sex, classical music, potions, and more sex while you look at me with wonder in your big child-like eyes and have the childhood you never had, just with sex", but if Harry contributes something as well ("Let me teach you to be a human being"), we're getting somewhere.
But what do I know? I couldn't have a relationship if you paid me to ;)
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Date: 2007-01-06 02:25 pm (UTC)What I miss more is equality. Not necessarily power-wise, but personality-wise. How often have we not read books where the heroine might as well have been exchanged for an animal or a treasure? She's just the reward, not matter how many sassy remarks she can throw off.
To me, an interesting romance is between two persons who can give as good as they get, one way or another. Snape/Harry can easily end like this: "Let me teach you sex, classical music, potions, and more sex while you look at me with wonder in your big child-like eyes and have the childhood you never had, just with sex", but if Harry contributes something as well ("Let me teach you to be a human being"), we're getting somewhere.
But what do I know? I couldn't have a relationship if you paid me to ;)