Strangely, I don't care much for obsession. Maybe because I don't understand it? *is frightfully level-headed*
Ditto. That's why I find it so fascinating and have no problem believing that others might be ruled completely by it. After all, I never got the whole being in love thing in the first place and I know that alone can make people behave oddly ;)
teacher/student doesn't work for me, and cross-gen doesn't work for me.
Unrelated, when I first came to fandom, I thought cross-gen was short for cross-gender. It was very confusing for a while ;)
But re: equality: Mm, maybe it's because I have always had an easier time relating to adults (and thereby teachers) than to children and therefore felt more equal to adults than to my peers, but I don't have a problem with either teacher/student or cross-gen as long as both parts hold some sway over each other. Ah, I'm all about the power, you know ;) (Not so good with the communicating myself.) In my eyes no communication is entirely evenly matched or equal anyway, but it musn't be too uneven - then it's only power and not romance.
I think what I'm trying to get at is that there is power play in all relationships but that it isn't romance unless none of them can have the deciding vote, so to speak. Also that I can imagine student/teacher relationships being able to work after the student becomes an ex-student (not in the ex-parrot way, of course ;) and the same for cross-gen because I don't have troubles imaging the problems it raises being overcome.
But you are right: the second we go outside fandom and cheasy novels, there must be equality. It's alright to have the prince coming to the rescue, but the princess must be worth rescuing for herself, not for the half kingdom.
Oh, and my pet peeve? Have you read Edding's Belgarion series? Hero sets out to defeat the evil god in combat, princess travels around and is very pretty in pretty armor and speaks prettily to gather a great army to help hero. I don't have a problem with hero doing the fighting, but I loathe the whole 'look at me! I'm pretty and small and helpless, but I will lead you to battle if you'll pretty please come' way of the princess. It's so ... girly! No arguments, just 'I have breasts!'
It's because you scare off potential partners by demanding being treated like an equal!
LOL Yeah, maybe. Or maybe it's because I'm all for equality as long as it means I get to decide every time ;) I know my faults, but I'm great at pointing fingers at others!
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Date: 2007-01-08 09:39 pm (UTC)Ditto. That's why I find it so fascinating and have no problem believing that others might be ruled completely by it. After all, I never got the whole being in love thing in the first place and I know that alone can make people behave oddly ;)
Unrelated, when I first came to fandom, I thought cross-gen was short for cross-gender. It was very confusing for a while ;)
But re: equality: Mm, maybe it's because I have always had an easier time relating to adults (and thereby teachers) than to children and therefore felt more equal to adults than to my peers, but I don't have a problem with either teacher/student or cross-gen as long as both parts hold some sway over each other. Ah, I'm all about the power, you know ;) (Not so good with the communicating myself.) In my eyes no communication is entirely evenly matched or equal anyway, but it musn't be too uneven - then it's only power and not romance.
I think what I'm trying to get at is that there is power play in all relationships but that it isn't romance unless none of them can have the deciding vote, so to speak. Also that I can imagine student/teacher relationships being able to work after the student becomes an ex-student (not in the ex-parrot way, of course ;) and the same for cross-gen because I don't have troubles imaging the problems it raises being overcome.
But you are right: the second we go outside fandom and cheasy novels, there must be equality. It's alright to have the prince coming to the rescue, but the princess must be worth rescuing for herself, not for the half kingdom.
Oh, and my pet peeve? Have you read Edding's Belgarion series? Hero sets out to defeat the evil god in combat, princess travels around and is very pretty in pretty armor and speaks prettily to gather a great army to help hero. I don't have a problem with hero doing the fighting, but I loathe the whole 'look at me! I'm pretty and small and helpless, but I will lead you to battle if you'll pretty please come' way of the princess. It's so ... girly! No arguments, just 'I have breasts!'
LOL Yeah, maybe. Or maybe it's because I'm all for equality as long as it means I get to decide every time ;) I know my faults, but I'm great at pointing fingers at others!