Strangely, I don't care much for obsession. Maybe because I don't understand it? *is frightfully level-headed* But whatever kind of love you settle for as an author, I think the crucial aim should always be to not describe it, but to evoke it. Whether it is love at first sight (which can work), eternal love or obsessive love.
And God yes, equality! I realise that I attach a bit too much emphasis to equality, but I need both partners to be able to communicate on the same level to find a romance believable. - This is a reason why I can't read Harry/Snape (even though I do like the enemies-dynamics as such): Harry is/used to be Snape's student, and therefore, they will never be equal in my eyes. And no amount of rational argumentation will ever convince me that they are :-P
So, despite all that pretending of being reasonable, I've got very strong gut reactions against certain constellations: teacher/student doesn't work for me, and cross-gen doesn't work for me.
I couldn't have a relationship if you paid me to ;)
Maybe this is why! It's because you scare off potential partners by demanding being treated like an equal! If you played the spunky-yet-distress damsell, you'd suddenly become compatible with many men.
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Date: 2007-01-07 06:45 pm (UTC)And God yes, equality! I realise that I attach a bit too much emphasis to equality, but I need both partners to be able to communicate on the same level to find a romance believable. - This is a reason why I can't read Harry/Snape (even though I do like the enemies-dynamics as such): Harry is/used to be Snape's student, and therefore, they will never be equal in my eyes. And no amount of rational argumentation will ever convince me that they are :-P
So, despite all that pretending of being reasonable, I've got very strong gut reactions against certain constellations: teacher/student doesn't work for me, and cross-gen doesn't work for me.
I couldn't have a relationship if you paid me to ;)
Maybe this is why! It's because you scare off potential partners by demanding being treated like an equal! If you played the spunky-yet-distress damsell, you'd suddenly become compatible with many men.